A while back, I was talking to a client, Peter, and he had been experiencing a lot of stress. He was telling me that he was feeling the weight of the organization, like he was having to hold the whole organization together.
That's a lot of stress for one person to feel. As we were exploring it further, Peter shared a recent interaction with his manager. His manager was reflecting on a project and told Peter that he really appreciated the quality of his work and the effort he put in – that he had done a great job. It was nothing more than a one-on-one, heartfelt conversation recognizing Peter for work that mattered. Peter said to me: "That felt so good. It felt great for somebody to know what I was doing and to appreciate it, because I think a lot of the work I do is behind the scenes, invisible. People don't really know about it. So to hear my manager say that he saw it and he appreciated it felt incredible." These moments of recognition matter. When was the last time that someone recognized you for your efforts? Can you remember someone sharing genuine gratitude and appreciation for your contributions? If you can remember that moment, you remember how it felt. And how important it was to you. In general, we don’t recognize people enough. We have a tendency to point out the things that people can do better in an effort to help them grow, but not to highlight all the things that are going well. Regular recognition and appreciation is just as crucial to growth. It gives us confidence that we’re on the right track, and motivation to continue taking on challenging tasks that push us to expand our skills and abilities. More motivating than money? When I was talking to Peter about how great he felt about the recognition he received, he was sure to add, “You know, if they want to give me more money, I'm not going to say no!" But the money wasn't the driving force behind his motivation. Daniel Pink says you just need to pay people enough money to take the money conversation off the table. What motivates them to stay, grow, contribute and add value? It’s the intangibles, like gratitude, appreciation and recognition. Finding out how to recognize your people Shortly after working with Peter, I had the opportunity to have a conversation with his manager. When his manager asked me what motivated Peter, I was able to tell him about how much recognition and appreciation for his efforts meant to him. The manager was so relieved to hear this because he had no idea how to support Peter in staying motivated. The truth is that most people don't know what motivates others unless they do some very intentional trial and error to figure it out. So what can you do if you’re not lucky enough to just have me walk in and tell you how to motivate your people? You ask. Ask during onboarding. Ask during one on ones. Ask after you’ve given recognition. Make it clear that you care about giving them what they most need. I have a list I've created of 10 great questions to ask your direct reports in your one-on-ones. Just shoot me an email and I’ll be glad to send you a copy.
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![]() What does digitizing old photos have to do with your workplace satisfaction? At first glance, not much. But as I’ve delved deeper into my own home project of digitizing my photos, something unexpected has occurred to me. I used to be so joyful. I don’t mean that I’m unhappy now. But when I look at photos of me when I was little? That’s a whole different level of joy. In the photos I found of myself at my fifth and sixth birthday parties, I was alive. I was silly. I was playful. I was joyful and happy. I can imagine myself being loud and literally carefree, not caring what anybody else thought about me. And then as I progressed through the years and started finding my pre-teen photos and my teen photos, there's a noticeable shift. There’s a lot more restraint. I was learning to notice other people's reactions to me and be appropriate in how I behaved. I learned to pull back on that joy and aliveness and make myself smaller. Have you ever noticed this in yourself? Where have you restrained your joy in your life and work? Imagine a world in which you could bring all of that messy, alive, fun, playful crazy self into your work, into your life. What would be possible? I was talking with a client recently who's an executive in her firm and she was telling me that she was unhappy in her work. As she began to think about her options and the possibility of making a change that would allow her to focus on what she was passionate about, something noticeably shifted in her...something became unlocked and she lit up - I could sense a new spark of aliveness. She visibly shifted...and I saw that childlike spirit in her as she imagined what it would be like to do something that fully engaged her, something that sparked joy. If you were to live in a world in which you could bring your full being into work - including all of that joy and unpredictable, messy authenticity - what would be possible for you? What would it be like to share a full belly laugh with one of your colleagues? Or really celebrate the success of your team? For so many of us, we've learned to numb ourselves. While we might shut down to avoid the discomfort of anxiety, stress, fear or overwhelm, the truth is, we can't selectively numb. So when we numb the hard feelings, we also numb our joy and full expression. Today, I invite you to think about what you were like as a child. What do your photos show? Some may have to look back even further to find the truly free and expressive child. How have you pulled back in order to be appropriate, fit in, or gain approval from others? Then ask yourself this: Where can you find a little more joy at work this week? And what would be possible if that joy spread throughout your team. Want to talk more? If you are inspired by bringing more joy and aliveness into your life and workplace, let’s chat! Reach out and book time to explore what’s possible: Click HERE |
AuthorKatie is a Certified Dare to Lead™ Facilitator and Executive Coach. Archives
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